Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Airlines Enforcing Dress Codes

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/25/airlines-dress-code-controversy-cleavage-2012_n_1829989.html

Apparently, airports want to discriminate people based on clothing now. This is obviously ridiculous, but I can't help but love the reasoning and comments.

It's mostly due to the always subjective "offensive" defense. This obviously doesn't work because there is someone out there who finds everything offensive, and always different groups combating various different things that are offensive to the point where doing anything and doing nothing is offensive. It's a big fucking paradox that must be ignored if we are to stay free.

Also ridiculous is the also subjective reasoning utilizing "morals" and "values" and such. Considering morals and values are arguable, they're subjective. Stop beating around the bush and use logic. And I mean something more solid, something more than, "it's wrong". Explain why it's wrong, preferably more than with "it's offensive."

But even the people I agree with are being stupid. I noticed someone calling this act "communist". Communism, from what I know, doesn't require dress codes (if it does, I'll be shocked, but let me know anyway). More than anything, though, it is conservative. Very. I also find it arguable that this issue can be considered a free speech issue. It can be, but it's not exactly easy to argue.

It is, however, a Fourteenth Amendment issue, under the Equal Rights clause (which clearly says "any characteristic"). This is in clear violation of that. Hasn't stopped anyone before, and sometimes people get away with it. Like the FCC getting away with censorship.

But anyway, it's total bullshit, yada yada blah blah blah. 'Nuff said.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Revealing a Lie; Details About My Wife; Updates

The lie I'm about to reveal was a secret kept between my wife and I for personal reasons. I'll give the lie first, then explain why I did so readers understand.

My wife and I actually had sex when we were sixteen. I had said in some posts that we hadn't had sex even after we turned eighteen, but we actually had. It is true that having sex in our dorm wasn't easy (wasn't kidding about the super-thin walls; even if we were quiet we could've been heard), but we had sex a few times before then, and we certainly have plenty now that we're on our own in a decent place. Sorry, mother-in-law, but I assure you we do it out of love as opposed to being sex-crazed.

Speaking of which, our parents were a major reason why we kept that fact a secret. My wife's parents are nice, but we had sex in their house while they were gone, so they understood why we lied, though they said they wouldn't have been harsh on us either way for a variety of reasons (my parents would've been pissed either way, though). First off, some guys at our school threatened to rape us to "turn us straight", so that jump-started our having sex just in case they actually did (and they didn't because word spread about it and they got in huge trouble for that). They also said they'd understand if we did regardless of that situation because of the fact that we had been together for more than a decade at that point and that we couldn't get each other pregnant anyway. In fact, they said they were shocked that we hadn't even decided to do it before.

So sorry if I lied to you, readers, but that's why. We just didn't want family to know, and they read this blog sometimes. Now that they know, there's no problem.

But speaking of problems, there's some little challenge-type thing my wife and I did not too long ago. We came up with it ourselves because we like to be honest with each other and discuss everything. What we did was confess things we didn't like about each other, or at least things that weren't perfect. This didn't start a fight, and we didn't even get upset, we just ultimately talked about little things that didn't even detract much.

For instance, I noted that, while my wife is pretty much the nicest person ever, sometimes I feel she's too nice to people who don't deserve being treated nicely at all and that she can be oversensitive, which she readily admitted to. She's so nice that she's the type of person who'd give Adolf Hitler a hug. Well, probably not, honestly, but she's a bit too trusting to people who are untrustworthy. Sometimes she wants to help people who are obviously deceptive, and that bounces back on both of us. I did, however, note afterward that I know why she does it and that I still think it's positive that she's just in-tune with other's and their needs and wants to help.

Conversely, she noted that my biggest problem is my stubbornness. Though I noted I do tend to admit when I'm wrong, I admitted to that with no problem, and I can see people not liking me for that reason (people are usually fine with me, though). I know she's had a problem with it before, too, because when it comes to discussion on important matters, such as having a child, she feels a little overwhelmed by it. We both definitely want children, it's just a matter of when and where and such. I'm still wanting to wait a bit, and she thinks she's ready now. She's willing to wait with me, though, because she realizes having a mutual consensus on when helps us both. She did note, however, that she thinks it's cute when I get passionate about various issues, tends to be behind me on what I stand for, and we've both influenced each other in our thinking despite my otherwise stubborn behavior. She also noted that I had often been right anyway, so she trusts my judgment despite personal problems she has with it.

Otherwise, we mostly just mentioned little details because we started having a little fun with this, like my gaseous emissions (especially because I like spicy food) and her singing at random. Through all of this, we decided we ultimately love those things about each other and prefer we don't change and ended up cuddling each other and saying we love each other a lot and eventually lead to us having sex again. I figured we'd be okay afterward, but I didn't think that would happen, but either way, we learned a lot. That's pretty crazy, though, that even after approaching twenty years in this relationship and knowing each other very well since we're kids that we're still learning about each other. Important lesson to be learned, folks.

And speaking of children, that's the other big announcement I have is we don't quite know when we want to get my wife artificially inseminated but it'll likely be soon. My wife wants to be inseminated because I'm absolutely disgusted with the idea of me doing it, and I even plan on getting my tubes tied eventually not because I don't want kids, but because the idea of semen getting inside me might scar me psychologically. My wife has always wanted a baby anyway, and she's real excited about it (and I am, too, despite wanting to wait a bit). She worries about what I think of the baby not actually being mine, but I assure her that I'll treat the baby as our own and not even think about it. We'll probably even tell her when she's old enough and even tell her not to go searching for her real father because that could hurt my feelings.

When it comes to this blog, though, after our child is born, I won't post anything new. Maybe finish something old or something I said I'd do (and that's unfortunately not a promise), but otherwise I'd be done. It's not even because nobody besides family really reads this, moreso because I want to dedicate my time to other activities, particularly those with family. If anything else happens, you'll know somehow, including if I die (which I doubt will happen, but you never know).

Speaking of which, I will post again soon, but that's what I want to do right now is spend time with my wife. 'Til next time.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

My Cousin (Part 1)

I'll start off with something interesting, because, when it comes to my cousin, how could I not? I know not everyone would think so from what I've typed up here before (though I have given interesting details), but people often can't help but like her because she's quite unorthodox and charismatic. She's the kind of person who would usually be derided throughout high school and such, but she was actually really popular. There are several reasons, but one big reason for that stands out the most.

She is a highly sexual being. She prefers to have meaningful relationships before having sex, but she didn't always refrain from that, especially if she found someone particularly attractive or nice. Despite her being bisexual, she ended up being with women most of the time, especially since she eventually decided to only date women "because they're sexier, more fun to play with, and can usually go on longer." She even wore an earring on her right ear to signify her interest in women. Despite that restriction, I wouldn't be surprised if she has broken Wilt Chamberlain's record. That can't be verified, though, because even my cousin lost track, and didn't really care anyway considering she was more concerned with love and pleasure.

Still, she has had a lot of sex with a lot of women, and some isolated sexual encounters with men. Whenever she did have sex with men, however, she was quite picky. Her biggest restriction was hair length. She would only date men who at least had shoulder length hair, and would otherwise not even consider them in the slightest. She also didn't want to be with more than one man at once. She typically liked being with one person at a time either way, but she only ever had sex with multiple women at once, and didn't much care for having two men at once.

And though she has been at least somewhat attracted by men, she has never, ever crushed on a man (not before officially starting a relationship, at least). She has, however, crushed on women. Several, in fact. One of her first big crushes was the first person she ever had a sexual encounter with. My cousin was confused about what she liked despite being sure she really wanted this other girl, and they eventually decided they wanted to experiment just to see if they even liked women. By the way, this happened when they were fourteen. My cousin did, of course, but the other girl ended up not wanting to go any further, which made my cousin upset for a little while.

Soon after, however, she gained her first girlfriend, though they still didn't last long together. Word spread quickly, however, of my cousin's behavior, and she had a ton of people asking her out and for sexual favors and such. She actually didn't like having that much attention, because she didn't want to be bothered by half of the people coming up to her (because of a severe lack of attraction, or if she knew other person's personality and behavior wasn't good enough), and the other half she had a hard time choosing between. For those she felt bad for, she befriended and sometimes later grew closer to (again, mostly women, especially early in her dating/relationship timeline).

Even if she was with girlfriends, however, she liked to ogle other girls, sometimes to make her significant other jealous (she tried not to make them too jealous, though) and sometimes because the other girls wanted to as well. Surprisingly, it was usually the latter. Sometimes they would do that for random women they'd see or meet out in public places and such, and sometimes they'd do that for celebrities, and there was one in particular I remember my cousin crushed on: Gillian Anderson. She had posters of Anderson in lingerie and such, though she got rid of most of them (she still has one left). She even wrote Gillian some letters, one time with a pic of herself in a bikini, flexing her muscles (she has always been fairly strong and quite fit). That's the kind of thing my cousin does, and it's one of those things I laugh about even to this day.

But my cousin's strangest crush was actually on my wife's mother. I prefer not to think of her that way, but I can see why. My wife looks and acts a lot like her own mother does, so that's unusual, but it's still one of those funny things I think about. What's even more strange, however, is that my mother in law actually did sometimes like to cheer my cousin up after break-ups by taking her out on dates. Her husband didn't mind, because he knew all she was doing was hanging out with her and making her feel better by doing something nice for her anyway. Whenever my cousin came back from those dates, she always had felt mesmerized and felt like she had to masturbate almost every single time ("because of the hugs" was her excuse). When she says that (about masturbating, I mean), that usually means she hasn't had sex.

To my cousin's credit, my mother in law always talked afterward about how nice my cousin was, and that she figured from their dates that my cousin just had bad luck when it came to picking nice girls to be with, because she saw nothing wrong with her. From what I've seen, I can vouch for that. For instance, my cousin didn't like it if her significant others had a problem with me being around, because I usually was and kind of had to be sometimes. Some simply didn't want to deal with it, for which I don't entirely blame them. The ones who were mean to me, however, I told on, or my cousin simply saw herself, and she always became mad when that happened. She even got into a physical altercation with one of her former partners about it because my cousin was defending me from being hurt.

She never liked being violent or mad, though. That's why she always wanted to be in relationships and why she always liked having me around to take care of me. She has always been a very loving and affectionate person. She can still be devious, though, and she likes to pull pranks and such. In fact, that's kind of how she met her wife.

My cousin signed up to be a life guard, but she only did so to get closer to female lifeguards, and to get one of those sexy swimsuits, like the ones worn on Baywatch (she didn't get them, because they weren't issued, but she bought one online later anyway). My cousin, of course, kissed her future wife during CPR practice, and was fired because of it. Her wife, however, asked for her number, and the rest is history. My cousin's wife later told her that most of the other employees there make crude remarks, such as calling her a "dyke," except for one guy who thought it was really hot. My cousin doesn't care if other people make fun of her and such, though, which was yet another reason she was a little more popular in high school than usual (didn't help my girlfriend and I much, though).

Despite my cousin's deviancy and sometimes questionable behavior, she still has her limits. For every time she fucked a hot maid or nun (she seriously did, no joke), there would also be times when she'd deny sexual activity for whatever reason. For instance, she doesn't like having her sexual activities filmed, whether it be amateur or professional quality. She was once asked to be in a porno film, and denied the offer. She also had an ex hide a camera, and my cousin figured out about it, somehow found the footage, and destroyed it. After that happened, she got into a fight with that girl, and they broke up.

Anyway, I should be winding this post down. I could probably write a goddamn novel about my cousin's sexual adventures alone, but I at least wanted to give a broad description. This doesn't mean I won't tell more about my cousin, but that's all I'm blurting out about her sex life. Anything else is just about her, with more about myself thrown in as well, and that's because we were around each other a lot. So, that's what to expect from part two, if I ever get around to it.